Who loves to examine their own life? Here, me!
I have always loved doing this. I think this kind of thing brings self-awareness and it helps us to reach our highest in any situation we are in. However, as someone who is constantly examining my own life, I have also found that there is a right and wrong way to do it.
I remember finding myself feeling guilty and regretting at things I said or did in the past, totally focused on my mistakes and feeling that I was my own mistakes! I don’t know if you can relate to this but, this way makes you feel like you are not even doing anything right, in fact, you live afraid of your future and your own decisions. Therefore I call it the wrong way, however, we can learn from moments like these and it happens by learning to forgive ourselves.
Forgiveness can be difficult sometimes but I think especially for moments when the person you need to forgive is yourself. This is self-forgiveness and it’s really the idea that we are not defined by our failures and mistakes. Here is when I want to tell you:
You are not your mistakes. You are not defined by your mistakes.
We have all made mistakes, we all have done stuff we are not proud of, it can be an action, behaviour, the way you speak, or maybe the way you view your own life or body. These can be the secret parts of ourselves that we don’t normally share with people, why? Because it normally causes us shame. But let me tell you, we all have areas in our lives where we could use the self-forgiveness. So extend grace to yourself, you are more worth than your mistakes!
On the other hand, the right way to examine ourselves inspire us and challenge us. It does not leave us with a weird feeling, in fact, it allows us to see what we did good and the areas where we still have to improve. Doing it in the right way let us celebrate our successes (small or big ones) everything good you do or complete is worthy of celebration. I think in this way is the healthiest way to live and thrive despite any situation you go through.
So next time you feel demotivated or being hard on yourself, take a moment, take a good deep breath and I encourage you to examine your situation choosing grace and believing that you are not your mistake. Instead, think… What can you learn from your mistake? What area do you need to forgive to yourself? And let all the feelings that are stealing your inner peace go.
You don’t have to be perfect, sometimes we are going to make mistakes, and that’s ok, what is not ok is to believe the wrong thing about us and let us be defined by what we do. I invite you to embrace your life, celebrate your successes and keep improving in what you have to improve (We all are in this process in life!)
So forgive yourself, keep moving and be kind to yourself,