I am not the sum of my mistakes and neither are you.
Is it just me or do you also love to examine your own life?
I have always loved doing this. I think this kind of thing brings self-awareness and it helps us to reach our highest in any situation we are in. However, as someone constantly examining my own life, I have also found that there is a right and wrong way to do it.
I remember finding myself feeling guilty and regretting things I said or did in the past, totally focused on my mistakes and feeling that I was the sum of my mistakes!
I don’t know if you can relate to this but, living this way makes you feel like you are not doing anything right.
In fact, you live afraid of your future and your own decisions. Therefore I call it the wrong way. We can, however, learn from moments like these and it happens by learning to forgive ourselves.
Your mistakes are not your identity
Forgiveness can be difficult sometimes but I think especially for moments when the person you need to forgive is yourself. This is self-forgiveness and it’s really the idea that our failures and mistakes do not define us. Here is what I want to tell you:
You are not your mistakes. You are not defined by your mistakes.
We have all made mistakes, and we all have done stuff we are not proud of, it can be an action, behaviour, the way you speak, or maybe the way you view your own life or body.
These can be the secret parts of ourselves that we don’t usually share with people, why? Because it normally causes us shame. But let me tell you, we all have areas in our lives where we could use self-forgiveness. So extend grace to yourself, you are more worthy than your mistakes!
Check your blindspots and celebrate every win
On the other hand, the right way to examine ourselves inspires us and challenges us. It does not leave us with a weird feeling, in fact, it allows us to see what we did good and the areas where we still have to improve.
Doing it in the right way lets us celebrate our successes (small or big ones). Everything good you do or complete is worthy of celebration. This way is the healthiest way to live and thrive despite any situation you go through.
So next time you feel demotivated or if you’re being hard on yourself, take a moment, take a good deep breath.
Hold it, and breathe out. It feels good right?
I encourage you to examine your situation with grace and believe the truth that you are not your mistake/s.
Instead, think… What can I learn from my mistake? What area do I need to forgive myself in? And let all the feelings that are stealing your inner peace go.
The goal isn’t perfection
You don’t have to be perfect, sometimes we are going to make mistakes, and that’s ok, what is not ok is to believe the wrong thing about us and let us be defined by what we do. I invite you to embrace your life, celebrate your successes and keep improving in what you have to improve (We all are in this process in life!)
So forgive yourself, keep moving and be kind to yourself,
Ok? Promise. Let’s go!